My Best Friend's Wedding
My best friend tied the knot last weekend. When I first heard about her plans, I kept questioning her, "are you sure?", "are you sure that you're ready?", "don't you think you're a bit too young for this?" and so forth. There was never a sign of doubt in her voice. She was certain. She was ready and most importantly she really wanted the matrimony.In all honesty, I suppose I subconsciously did this because of myself. I was afraid. Afraid that she'll change, afraid that she'll be confined by the husband, afraid that we can no longer do the things we care freely do as singles. Afraid that I'll be left desolate. Afraid that we'll stop being able to relate and share our stories.
But the truth is, we've gone our separate ways a long time ago. As much as I hate to admit this, the only element that is binding us is our past and the verbal proclamation that we were indeed the best of friends at the dawn of my A-Level. I kept telling friends from school that I reckon that I hardly changed and perhaps the least changed amongst us. Inspite of myself, I have changed less visibly. I changed internally. I have different views now. I like different things. I talk about sociopolitics, books, history, issues and substantiate them with statistics and facts that even I have forgotten where or how I had acquired them. I stopped listening to music. I hate gossiping. I hate shopping. I criticise everything and everyone. And half of the stuff I now know, do or enjoy she doesn't and vice versa. Our common ground which was once the size of the planet earth, has shrunk to the size of our little school compound atop the little hill called Bukit Merbah.
But do you want to know something else?
Best-friendship between two long time buddies... is like a marriage in itself. Once pledged, both are committed. Hence, no matter what, we share secrets, problems and experiences, how ever alien they are to the other. Albeit many many things have changed, one fundamental thing hasn't. The foundation this friendship is planted and nurtured on i.e.respect, trust and love, is still intact, strong as ever before.
And so to my best friend, I wish you all the happiness in the world & I want you to know that I'll be there for you, always.
Hugs & kisses,
-- The Maid of Honour
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